7 Ways Reality TV Ruins Relationships …

7 Ways Reality TV Ruins Relationships …

Reality TV Ruins Relationships, in my humble opinion. Your first instinct might be to argue that no one forces anyone to watch these programs, and I agree – but they do, and we as a race are influenced by the things we see. Check out your TV Guide – it just so happens that we see a LOT of “reality” TV. None of it has any basis in reality, of course, but nevertheless, there are many ways in which reality TV ruins relationships. Chick flicks used to do it, but now you don’t even have to buy a movie ticket! For all the ways reality TV ruins relationships, just keep reading!

1. Unrealistic Expectations

One of the main ways reality TV ruins relationships are through unrealistic expectations. Everything about reality TV is completely uncharacteristic. You can fall in love with a woman in six weeks – even if she’s in a group of fifteen, and you really only see her for an hour or so every couple of days? Honestly? Because, sorry, how many Bachelor/Bachelorette contestants are still together?

2. Fools Rush In

Speaking of which, that’s just one of the problems with reality TV. JWoww falls in love with a new guy approximately 15 minutes after breaking up with her long term boyfriend, Sam and Ron fell in lust within about 10 minutes and have continued on their trainwreck for five seasons now, Real World participants are constantly hooking up, and there are naïve watchers out there who think that rushing into a relationship really does make everything passionate and heated.

3. Group Love

Reality TV ruins relationships by encouraging this whole group grope mentality as well. So many reality shows feature cast mates who jump from one partner to the next that cliques of kids now think it’s a really good idea. There’s a rumor floating around right now that every member of Jersey Shore has herpes – what happens when groups of kids in high school start sharing STDs?

4. Crazy Characterization

Reality TV also perpetuations certain stereotypes, but audience members never realize that. One of the primary reasons so many reality relationships end is because one or both of the participants continue acting like their character once the show is over. People don’t believe they’re acting; boys start thinking that acting like Spencer Pratt or The Situation will totally get them hot girls.

5. Putting on a Show

Another reason reality TV ruins relationships is because it is all a show. Yet, certain people who watch it believe it really is realistic. They start thinking it’s completely realistic to, say, have over half a dozen babies, to treat your husband like crap and your wife like a drudge, and then get a divorce. A guy may say to himself, “Hey. My wife says and does some of the things Kate Gosselin does … she’s going to turn into a harpy! I’m going to leave her! I feel just like Jon!” and never thinks to himself, hey, are they playing a good cop/bad cop role?

6. The Unreality in Reality TV

Which brings me to this: the complete lack of reality in reality TV ruins relationships as well. These shows create crazy ideals that influence the people who watch them. I envision the day when stereotypical New Jersey mentalities really do invade the entire world.

7. The Glamorization of Violence

Violence really does get glamorized on television, which may be the most important way reality TV ruins relationships. Whether it’s Ronnie and Sam on Jersey Shore or Amber and Gary on Teen Mom, violence between couples is shown routinely with few consequences. We had to wait an entire season to see what happened to Amber for nearly pushing Gary down the stairs in front of her child. What kind of message does the seeming lack of consequences send to young couples?

Reality TV ruins relationships because, primarily, the expectations are totally unrealistic. There are poor little tweens and teens out there right now who think Sammi Sweetheart and Ronnie were meant to be together, and may even be getting the impression that this kind of behavior details a passionate relationship. Think I’m exaggerating? Go visit Tumblr; some of the blogs you find on there define all the ways reality TV ruins relationships better than I ever could. Sure, most people know better than to think any of this is a good example … but others don’t. Do you think reality TV ruins relationships? Let me know how!

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8 Tips on Dealing with a Lazy Husband …

8 Tips on Dealing with a Lazy Husband …

Do you find yourself doing all the chores around the house on your own while your husband lounges about? If you are wondering what to do with your potato-like husband, then take a look at the following suggestions. Here are 8 tips on dealing with a lazy husband that might help you get him to put forth a little more effort around the house. A few of the tips simply help you deal with him in general.

8. Accept help when he offers, even if you don’t need it

One tip on dealing with a lazy husband involves not looking a gift horse in the mouth. You might have to nag a couple of times to get something done, but if your husband goes out of his way to offer help with anything, be sure to take it. Even if it is something you were about to do and will only take a couple of seconds, take the assistance when it comes around. Afterwards, be sure to let him know how much you appreciate this kind gesture.

7. Come to terms that your husband will never think exactly like you

Even if you both like similar things, you will probably always disagree on the way the bathroom is cleaned. When your husband helps you with chores around the house or with anything you ask him to, don’t get upset if it isn’t completed the same way you would do it yourself. Be content with the way he helps out or don’t ask him to do it in the first place.

6. Don’t act like the foreman of the house

Guys don’t want to be told what to do all the time. Most of them do very well at thinking on their own and they don’t want to feel like they are still living at home with mom and dad. Be a loving wife and nicely ask for assistance with a chore around the house or make him a list of things you cannot do and would greatly appreciate if he would do them when he has free time.

5. Don’t redo something your husband has just done

Being content is another important tip on dealing with a lazy husband. You might not agree with the way your husband has just done the dishes, but don’t start rewashing them because you think they should be washed in a different manner. This sort of follows the same line of thought as being content with his work, but this is taking it one step further by showing how discontent you are about the way things were done.

4. Catch him in a good mood when you ask him to do something

Everyone has their moments and your husband might be more willing to do something for you if you ask him while he’s happy about something else. Try not to blurt out what you need. Instead, try to ease into the question or request for your husband to do something so you don’t force him out of his good mood.

3. Hold on to your patience

Losing your patience won’t make your husband any less lazy. In fact, a lack of patience has often backfired on many women and caused their husbands to be lazier than usual. Take a deep breath and walk away if you think you are about to lose it. Some husbands will catch on to this sound and get the hint that they’ve gone a bit too far. A few might even help you right away once they hear the sudden intake of breath followed by a deep sigh.

2. Show him how appreciative you are when he actually does something

This tip on dealing with a lazy husband involves appreciation. Some husbands need to be showered with phrases and gestures that show them just how appreciative their wives are. Carrying out this method will be mostly up to you and how responsive your husband is to the gratitude shown. Some need a little while others require a lot.

1. Don’t yell to get what you want

Yelling will cause most husbands to block out what is being said nearly immediately. A few husbands will not only ignore what is being said in a raised tone, but they might even walk out of the room without a backwards glance. Speak in regular tones and try to continue to be loving when you ask your husband to help you with something.

You might not agree with each of these 8 tips on dealing with a lazy husband, but the friends who suggested some of these say they truly do work! Feel free to share your own suggestions. What techniques do you use to get the results you want; bribery with your special hot wings or maybe holding the remote control for ransom?

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7 Ways to Show You are Interested in Him Without Being Too Clingy …

7 Ways to Show You are Interested in Him Without Being Too Clingy …

I’m a rather shy person, especially when it comes to taking to the opposite sex. It was always difficult for me to talk to a guy I found attractive or interesting. I think it’s important to not appear too clingy when you want to get to know a guy better. The following list includes 7 ways to show you are interested in him without being too clingy, in case you are worried about coming across as being overly attached from the start.

7. Smile when you make eye contact

There’s no harm in giving a guy you like a sweet smile when he looks at you. There’s no need to even be standing right next to one another, so there’s no way a smile could come across as being clingy at all.

6. Give him a compliment

Compliment him on his attire, something he said, or anything else you can think of. As long as the compliment is sincere and doesn’t come across as being a cheesy pick-up line, it should be genuinely accepted. Don’t try to give him a string of compliments all at once or you might come across as being a bit too needy.

5. Stand next to him occasionally

Getting closer to him requires a bit of tact, in order to keep him from thinking you are stalking him. You don’t want to creep him out before you even get a chance to get to know him properly. If you can come up with a legitimate reason for standing next to a guy you like, then he might be less likely to shy away from your closeness.

4. Listen intently when he has something to say

People like it when others pay attention to what they are saying. You can show a guy you like that you are interested in what he has to say by letting him know you are listening closely. Tossing in a couple of comments to make him more aware that you are actually listening couldn’t hurt either.

3. Laugh at his jokes

What guy doesn’t enjoy being the center of attention? Laughing at a guy’s jokes or witty comments is a great way to show him you are interested. This is merely a sign of admiration and doesn’t come across as being clingy to most guys.

2. Gently lay your hand on his arm to get his attention

As long as you don’t grab onto his arm and hang there for a long period of time, he shouldn’t feel too weirded out. If you have a question to ask him or are going to pay him a compliment, then gingerly touch his arm or hand to get his attention before speaking your piece.

1. Talk to him when you get a chance

Simple chatter is rarely considered to be clingy behavior. Find out how he’s doing, chat about current events, or start up a conversation about something you might both have in common. Don’t following him around and try to keep the conversation going. If he politely excuses himself, then leave it at that.

I think these 7 ways to show you are interested in him without being too clingy should help you interact with a guy in a way that won’t scare him off from the start. What other ways can you show your interest and not appear to be overly needy to a guy?

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