10 Reasons Guys Never Call Back …

10 Reasons Guys Never Call Back …

Are you sitting by the phone, anxiously waiting for a call from your dreamy date last week only for it never to ring? It’s definitely frustrating, especially when you thought there was really something there. But did you know that there are specific reasons guys never call back? Yes, it’s true! Of course, there are always a few guys that never call back simply because they are jerks. We’re talking about the good men out there that would have called back but may not have done so because of something you said or did that turned them off. Here are ten reasons guys never call back that you may want to keep in mind the next time you go on a date.

1. Being Rude To Employees

Have you ever ignored the waitress? Have you treated the movie ticket agent like crap because the show you wanted was sold out? Not that you should do these things ever, but if you want your date to call you back, it’s especially important to portray manners and be polite. Make it a conscientious effort. After all they are people too. Eye contact is just as important as your tone of voice, so be warm and genuine.

2. Lighting Up

Smoking is usually a big turn off to guys. A recent poll said that 68% of guys will not call a girl back if she lights up on their first date. That’s over half of the guys surveyed! If you do smoke, work on kicking the habit, not only for the sake of your health, but those around you as well. Besides, cigarette smoke has a horrible stench that clings to your teeth and hair. Not attractive!

3. Talking Smack

We all have our moments of venting and getting it out of our systems. But on a first date? No, no, no! One of the top reasons guys never call back is because the girl wouldn’t stop trashing people. Not only do you come across as rude and negative, but you seem really insecure. No one wants to be around someone with a bad energy. So smile, be pleasant and keep the conversation positive.

4. What You Wear

There is such a fine line when it comes to dressing for a first date. You want to be cute, yet comfortable. Sexy, yet demure. Unique, yet classy. Here’s my advice: save the lingerie for the bedroom, and your sweats for the gym. It’s not a black tie event, so put your ball gown back in the closet. Don’t wear your mom’s clothes but don’t wear your Halloween costume from last year either. Bottom line? Dress in something that is comfortable and cute, be yourself, and don’t stress about it!

5. Dirty Mouth

A lady who curses? NOT lovely. When every other word that comes out of your pretty little mouth is a four letter word, that’s a big reason guys never call back. So if you have a dirty mouth, clean it up.

6. Whining And Complaining

I recently saw something I will never forget. While in an airport with my husband on an overlay for his business trip, we were enjoying a nice lunch when the doors opened and a man and a women walked in. The man was carrying suitcases and the women was yelling at him at the top of her lungs. She was obviously very upset, but so angry and loud that everyone could hear her screaming. I thought to myself, “I never want to be seen like that in public!” If your food is cold, or if your shoes start rubbing blisters, please don’t take it out on your poor date. And for heaven’s sake, spare him the details of your family drama until the tenth date or so. If the guys you go on dates with have to be a personal shrink, that’s a guaranteed reason guys never call back!

7. Schedule Maniac

Guys like girls to be spontaneous and go with the flow. There’s nothing wrong with scheduling out your date – dinner, a walk in the park, a movie and then coffee. But if it happens to be raining when dinner is over, don’t freak out! Just adjust your plans accordingly. Go walk around the mall, or go to the nearest pet store and look at the puppies and kittens. Be adventurous!

8. Being Unappreciative

Guys love being adored and appreciated by girls. They love it when we admire them! Now you don’t need to spend all evening fawning over him, but a simple “thanks for dinner, it was lovely” or “I’m so glad we got to spend time together, I had fun” goes a long way. And remember your please and thank you’s when it comes to opening doors or passing the salt and pepper. Being unappreciative is a big reason guys never call back.

9. Making Him Wait

When you and your man have been together for a year or two, chances are he will be a lot more patient while you primp and preen if he’s a few minutes early. But making a guy wait for 30 minutes on your first date is a big red flag to him! Make sure to be on time and get your primping done before he gets there.

10. Stressing Over The Small Stuff

Be ready with a laugh or a smile if something goes awry on your date. It’s nice when things go smoothly, but that doesn’t always happen. Sometimes it can help loosen things a bit and ease the tension on a first date when something funny or unplanned happens. So relax and enjoy a laugh together. Now that will give him a reason to call back!

I’m sure we can all admit to doing one (or all ten) of these things at one time or another in our lives. And that’s okay, we’re all human! And after being in a long term relationship with someone, they know you for who you are and love you in spite of all those odd quirks. But you want to make a good first (or second) impression on someone new, so keep this list of 10 reasons guys never call back floating around in your head and you can ensure that he does call back! What would you do to make sure he calls back?

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7 Ways to Confirm that he is Cheating …

7 Ways to Confirm that he is Cheating …

There’s been a nagging suspicion in your head these last few months – something is just not right. You can’t put your finger on it, but your husband is behaving differently in many ways. The late nights at work, the long hours in front of the computer, the hushed conversations on the phone…could there be another woman in his life? Are there really ways to confirm that he is cheating without having to confront him outright and accuse him with no proof whatsoever to back your allegations? There are other telltale signs of fidelity – ones that won’t leave you feeling so guilty of spying on him in this sneaky manner. Let’s find out what these are.

1. More attention to Personal Grooming

Has your husband started paying more attention than usual to his appearance? Maybe he’s buying new clothes, dabbing on cologne, going in for more frequent haircuts, or shaving more often. If you notice your husband’s lifetime grooming habits have changed for no apparent reason, it might be an indication of the presence of another woman in his life – one he’s trying to attract and impress.

2. Poor Sex Life

In the unfortunate event that your husband is physically involved with another woman, you may find your own sex life dwindling. Your husband will show little or absolutely no interest in making love to you and spurn any advances from your side as well.

3. Lies & Inconsistent Stories

Thankfully for you most cheaters make for poor liars, unless, of course, they’ve perfected the art over several years. In any case, there are way too many tiny details that will eventually slip out in the form of inconsistencies in his stories, however minor they may be. If you have a nagging suspicion in your head, one of the best ways to confirm that he is cheating is to listen carefully to what he is saying and watch out for tiny variations in his story.

4. Unexplained Absences from Home

At the start of a new affair, your husband will be eager to spend as much time as he can possibly manage with his new lady love. That means he’s going to scrimp on family time with you and the kids. You’ll find him spending more time at work, going away on unexplained official trips, or making plans only for himself and his ‘buddies’ on the weekend.

5. Demand for Personal Privacy

The natural inclination of a cheater is a desire not to get caught. And in order to keep his affair a secret, he will take to hiding his most intimate things from his partner, such as wallet, cell phone, e-mail account, bank passbook, credit card statements etc. Any unusual secrecy or demand for privacy that may not have existed between you both should send your mental alarms buzzing furiously and could confirm that he is cheating.

6. Unaccounted Spending

Looking through the finances is one of the better and quicker ways to confirm that he is cheating. Unless your husband has devised a specific hedge fund to finance his amorous pursuits, expenditure and indulgences on his lady love, such as meals, movies, hotel rooms, evenings out, and gifts are going to reflect in his financial statements.

7. Defensive Behavior

Fidgety or nervous behavior upon being questioned about relatively innocent things, such as his whereabouts the evening before or the late hours he’s putting into work is an indication of guilt. If he snaps at you for touching his cell phone, pounces on you for rummaging through his cupboard, or blames you for not giving him personal space, you can be sure there’s trouble in paradise.

Towards the end I’d like to point out that by themselves each of these ways to confirm that he is cheating does not indicate guilt. You cannot cry “Bloody Murder!” if he comes home late every evening or weep buckets of tears if he goes off on the weekends with his buddies. However when you spot more than one of these signs or a combination of them in his life, it’s time to sit down and have a little chat with him.

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8 Ways to Calm the Nerves Before the First Date …

8 Ways to Calm the Nerves Before the First Date …

Dating can be a nerve-racking experience. I’ve heard horror stories from friends who went on a date and were so nervous that the entire night turned out to be an excruciating event. From throwing up on their date to falling flat on their face in the parking lot, they each attributed their embarrassing evening to frazzled nerves. I’m sure you’d rather remember your date night filled with happy moments, not embarrassing ones, so here are 8 ways to calm the nerves before the first date.

8. Talk to your date over the phone

A good way to be less nervous about a first date with someone is to get to know the person a bit more. Of course, most first dates are had because someone wants to get to know someone else, but there’s no harm in chatting a bit over the phone before actually going on the date.

7. Go to the gym

Running on the treadmill for 15 or 20 minutes can work your muscles and take your mind off of the date coming up later in the evening. You might even catch an old friend there whom you can swap entertaining stories with. Working out might help you to become more relaxed as well, which tends to ease the nerves too.

6. Put on the comedy channel

I find laughing helps me calm down a lot when I’m nervous about something. If you still have things to do around the house, such as get ready for your date, then you can turn up the television and listen to the comedy act. You might find out later that the comedian you listened to is one your date also enjoys. This might be the perfect segue to a discussion on things you both have in common.

5. Listen to a favorite album

Music always changes my mood as soon as I start listening to it. I have certain albums for boosting my energy level, helping me relax, and even ones that put me to sleep. I’m sure you have specific songs that get you pumped up and ready for whatever may come. Listen to something that gets you ready for an enjoyable night and will take your mind off of being nervous.

4. Sit quietly and read

You don’t have to pick up the novel you’ve been reading, unless you are truly looking forward to finishing a few more pages. I find magazines give me a lot more to look at and read. They are generally filled with interesting pictures, informative articles, and they are great for taking my mind off of whatever I’m worried about. If you are one who can become fully absorbed in the paperback book you’re reading, then you might prefer this over a magazine. It’s up to you!

3. Take a walk

Head out for a stroll by yourself or take a companion along. My dog always keeps me entertained when we go for a walk. She’s great at making me laugh the way she bounds into the woods like a deer whenever she hears a noise. Maybe you could invite a friend along when you take a walk so you have someone to talk to about your upcoming date.

2. Watch a funny movie

I can think of at least 2 movies that make me laugh and help me forget I’m feeling uneasy about something coming up. I’m sure you have one you can quote by heart too. You might put the movie on and listen to it as you get ready for the evening. The best part about having a funny movie you’ve watched hundreds of times is when you start to laugh because you know what’s going to happen next. You don’t even have to be watching it because listening to it has the same exhilarating effect on you.

1. Call a friend

There’s always that one friend who’s able to cheer you up or give you the boost you need to ease any nervous feeling present. This friend will tell you exactly what you need to hear to make your first date jitters go right out the window.

I’m sure one of these 8 ways to calm the nerves before the first date will come in useful to you. If you already have a technique that worked for you in the past, please share it! I’m sure there are plenty of tips people can offer to help out someone who is going on a date for the first time. What advice have you been given to calm your nerves on a first date?

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8 Signs He’s about to Dump You …

8 Signs He’s about to Dump You …

No one wants to think about the possibility that a breakup is about to happen, especially when the break up is between you and your current beau. Do you feel your man is acting a bit strange at times? Take a look at these 8 signs he’s about to dump you and see if any of them ring a bell. I’m not saying that all of these pertain to every guy about to break up with his girlfriend, but they are very common.

8. He spends more time away from you

Do you feel like you never see him anymore? If you call him, can you hear lots of background noise that signifies he’s hanging out some place fun without you? When a guy starts spending more time hanging out with the guys and less time with you, then this could be a sign a breakup is in progress.

7. He’s started avoiding sex with you

Sometimes guys go through a difficult and don’t want to share their problems with their girlfriend. This doesn’t always mean they are about to dump their girlfriend, but it does put at least some doubt in the girl’s head. A lot of times these problems can put strain on a guy’s sex life. If you’ve noticed a slow decrease in sex, then you might try talking to him and see what you can find out.

6. He’s becoming less affectionate

If he hasn’t flat out started avoiding sex with you, then he possibly has started being less affectionate; doesn’t hold hands in public anymore, shies away from your touch, removes your hand from his arm or thigh when you place it there, or kissing you on the forehead when he leaves. Any of these are signs that something is amiss, unless your man has always acted this way. Not all guys are lovey-dovey with their girl.

5. He asked for his house key back or gave you yours back

You should know a breakup is about to happen if your guy blatantly asks you for your key to his place or gives you yours back without so much as an explanation. Another clue would be if he offers a lame excuse when asking for your key to be returned to him. There’s nothing more suspicious than a lame excuse.

4. He’s started leaving the room every time his phone rings

Not only is this a sign that he might be about to dump you, but it also tends to mean he’s possibly in the process of replacing you at the same time. Secretive phone calls and texts are never a good sign, unless your birthday is around the corner. If you confront him about this behavior and he acts flustered, then this could be a good sign that something is up.

3. He’s always busy

This is where the random excuses fall in to play whenever you try to make arrangements to be with him. He has errands to run, he has a friend he has to see, he has to work late, or he has to be somewhere else or doing something else no matter when you ask him if he wants to do something together.

2. He makes excuses not to go out on a date

When was the last time you two went out on a date? Does he make excuses as to why he can’t take you out? Lack of money? Lack of time? If he spends week after week ditching your plans to go out on a date, then this is rarely a sign that has a happy ending.

1. He’s quit calling

When you stop getting phone calls all together, then this usually means the end of a relationship is near. If he lost his phone or had to change his number, then he’d stop by and let you know. Not hearing a peep out of him generally is a very sure sign of being dumped.
These are common signs displayed by guys. They are horrible, but very real. I hope the 8 signs he’s about to dump you that I’ve listed above aren’t showing up in your current relationship. Have you ever noticed any other types of signs that a relationship is about to end?

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