7 Reasons why Sex is better after 50 …

7 Reasons why Sex is better after 50 …

So, you’ve heard that sex after 50 sucks. Experts have predicted nothing but a dismal sex drive and decreasing hormones for women who’ve survived half a century. Hmmm…are you sure they are talking sense? After all, there are plenty of women in their 50s who are kicking up a wild storm and rediscovering their sexuality. What’s stopping you? If you need more persuasion, take a look at these top Reasons Why Sex is Better After 50…

1. No worries of Unwanted Pregnancy

Let’s face it, half the fun of sex goes out of the window if you spend the days wondering whether you’ve made a mistake. And heaven forbid if your periods are delayed by a few days. It means countless hours spent on thinking about possible pregnancy and impending abortion. However, post menopause, you don’t have to worry about unwanted pregnancy. It is freedom like never before and the best time to enjoy guilt and worry free sex.

2. Fewer Interruptions

Women in their forties still have to look after their children, make school lunches, help do homework, etc. However, after 50, you will find your bedroom sessions being less interrupted by demands made by your children since they are more independent now and are probably having a good time somewhere else with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

3.You are not the Clueless Babe Anymore

One of the reasons why sex is better after 50 is because older women know what they want and they know how to get it too. With age, you find yourself getting less inhibited and more aware of your own sexuality. You are more comfortable with who you are, instead of obsessing about who you would like to be. This form of self confidence goes a long way in improving sexual performance.

4. Willing to Communicate

Carrying forward from the earlier thought, women who are more comfortable with themselves are also more willing to experiment sexually. And I am not just talking about trying out different positions. Older women are able to communicate their desires to their partners better, thereby actively participating in achieving sexual gratification.

5.Your Desire for Sex may Increase

While a lot of experts claim that sexual urge dips in women over 50, that isn’t always true. There is proof that desire can resurge once you stop taking birth control pills. Besides, even if your sexual desire does go south, there are ways to fix that. I am not talking about traditional hormone replacement therapies that use progestin and estrogen to raise hormone levels. Such treatments are not recommended due to risks to the heart. You could inquire about hormone therapies that make use of testosterone, which are considered a safer option.

6. Financial & Professional Stability

Women in their 50s are no longer in the rat race for higher paying jobs or a position with perks. By now, you’ve achieved financial & professional stability, probably have a decent amount saved for retirement, and settled your mortgages. You are able to afford the tiny luxuries you’ve denied yourself so long such as sexy lingerie, romantic getaways, and cozy dinners. You can well imagine how that can be a reason why sex is better after 50.

7. Lower Stress Levels

Not to say that women in their 50s are stress-free, but with children grown up and independent, stability on the professional front and security on the financial side, you are less stressed than when you were in your twenties, thirties or forties. With fewer worries on your mind, your sexual desire is bound to go up.

I told you there are plenty of Reasons why Sex is better after 50! What are you going to do to re-ignite the spark?

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7 Ways To Emulate Elizabeth Taylor …

7 Ways To Emulate Elizabeth Taylor …

When the actress Elizabeth Taylor died recently, it seemed that an era had truly ended. Dame Elizabeth was an icon of the twentieth century, and even though her health had prevented her working much in recent years, her fame was as great as ever. Known as much for her colourful personal life as for her lengthy career, Elizabeth was certainly a strong and forceful personality. While we may not have her looks, there are many ways in which we can emulate Elizabeth Taylor …

1. Live Life With Passion

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Nobody could ever accuse Dame Elizabeth of doing things by halves! Quite the opposite – here is one woman who lived life to the full. In every aspect of her life, whether it involved her career, charitywork or personal life, she put passion and energy into it. Follow in her footsteps, even if in a less grand way, and you will enjoy what you do.

2. Buy The Best

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Massive diamonds and couture outfits might not be in our budgets, and I certainly wouldn’t advocate spending money you can’t afford to spend. However, we can learn a lesson from Elizabeth and apply it to a smaller extent. Buy quality when it’s worth doing so – look at vintage or resale shops, for example, or buy an occasional good bottle of wine instead of several bottles of cheap plonk.

3. Keep On Trying

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As a divorcee, I am inclined to think once is enough, though I might be persuaded to consider a second marriage with the right man. I certainly wouldn’t clock up eight marriages! However, the lesson to learn here is that persistence can be positive, and there are certain circumstances where you shouldn’t give up.

4. Always Look Good

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Even when confined to a wheelchair, and in spite of suffering several major health problems, Dame Elizabeth was never seen looking less than immaculate. Making an effort, even if you don’t feel like doing so, can have a positive effect on you. Just think how much brighter a simple act like putting on lipstick can make you feel.

5. Enhance Your Best Features

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Think of Elizabeth Taylor, and you immediately see an image of her dark hair and those extraordinary eyes. Elizabeth knew what her best features were, and she used them to full effect. We all have something attractive about us, so play that up and don’t worry about what you don’t like about yourself.

6. Do Good

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Elizabeth was very active when it came to charity work, and didn’t forget her charity in her will. We might not have millions to leave, but we can all do something to help other people. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture – help out a neighbour in need, or volunteer in whatever field you are interested in.

7. Hold Your Head Up

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Despite the number of jokes made about her multiple marriages, you never saw any sign that it bothered Dame Elizabeth. Quite right, too! Don’t worry what other people think of you; hold your head up and don’t let other people get you down.

So you see, there are lots of ways in which you can emulate Elizabeth Taylor and adopt an aspect of her style or attitude. Are there any other stars you admire, whether they are contemporary or from the past, and what have you learned from them?

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7 Gay Icons …

7 Gay Icons …

Let me make it clear at the outset that the gay icons on this list are not all gay themselves. They are here because of the influence they have had on gay people and the inspiration they have offered with the lives they have lived and the activism they have performed. For the entire previous century (and perhaps human history) gay people have been a persecuted minority in the world, and the fear of ridicule and repression forced them into a narrow closet, with their sexuality a well guarded secret. These are the among the gay icons who have liberated them.

1. Martina Navratilova

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She is not only one of the greatest tennis players of all time, but also one of the greatest gay icons. She came out with her lesbian sexuality in 1981 during the peak of her career, at a time when thousands of gay people were dealing with repression, silence and ridicule. In an age that was being hailed for its liberalism, she opened a can of worms, and took all the criticism and antagonism that came her way chest on. For the spirit with which she fought and held herself and her sexuality proudly, she will remain as one of the greatest icons for the gay community.

2. Nelson Mandela

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Surprised? Nelson Mandela is an image of a man who will not bow down to suppression, no matter what. He fought hostility most of his life and came out a winner. It is this message that gay people identify with and take to heart

3. Sandi Toksvig

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Sandi Toksvig, a popular presenter, comedian and author of Danish descent, was the first woman in the media who came out as a lesbian. This was once again in the troubled period of the 80s and 90s, and she had to face the same barrage of antagonism as Martina Navratilova did. Sandi even faced death threats but she says that she felt much better for having come out. Since then she has been a noteworthy champion of gay rights.

4. Sir Ian Mckellen

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Sir Ian Mckellan came out publicly in 1988, on BBC Radio, and since then he has been one of the most vocal and active LGBT rights’ campaigners in the world. At the same time, he is recognized as one of the most distinguished talents in acting, and is honored and respected wherever he goes. He was even knighted well after he came out. For gay people, this goes to show that coming out does not necessarily mean that one is trading respect for ridicule.

5. Madonna

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Madonna is one of the greatest popular gay icons in the world. She was one of the first women to acknowledge bisexual tendencies, and rather than presenting herself as a martyr for the cause, she made it appear cool and sexy for women to be bisexual. With her charm and pop charisma, only she could have done it that way. She went on to appear in photographs and music videos, openly sharing her sexuality with naked women and enjoying herself. She has even been a very vocal spokesperson and activist for gay people.

6. Judy Garland

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Judy Garland is a gay icon mostly for all the struggles and pressure that she has faced in her life. A lot of gay people identify with the pattern of repression, rebellion, depression and strength that was so evident in Judy Garland’s life. Even in the 50s and 60s, popular media insultingly and disparagingly noted the influence that Garland had with the closet homosexuals of the time.

7. Harvey Milk

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Harvey Milk is referred by many as the Martin Luther King of gay people. He was the first gay person to be elected to office, and this was back in the 70s, when being gay meant that you were mentally ill and a bad influence for children. Milk openly fought for complete rights and equality for gay people, and went on to have a significant influence on the politics of his time. He was shot dead by a political adversary in ’78, and is now glowingly regarded as a martyr.

There are several other gay icons, and there will continue to be for a long time to come. Till gay people are openly and fully accepted into the fabric of law and society, they will continue to seek inspiration from people who have had to fight great odds. Which gay icons do you find most inspirational?

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